Tuesday is Jessica Clothier birthday, but as she tries to celebrate 26 years of life, she is mourning two lives cut short.
"You never think that one day you're going to wake up and two people are just not going to be there anymore," Clothier said.
She knew both women killed in a wrong-way crash on K-254 in Butler County over the weekend. Nancy Ross, 52, was the grandmother of 27-year-old Lyssa Hardy's daughter. The two women lived together with the child and Hardy's son.
While Clothier feels the crash could have been prevented, she has compassion for the driver's parents, and says no one deserves what the three families are going through.
"Nobody wins here," Clothier said. "It's just the way life goes. I mean, we are all going to go sometime it's just nobody expects it to be the next day."
Clothier said Hardy and Ross ran errands together often. Driving made Hardy nervous because she had been in a previous accident, Clothier said. But, Hardy still helped Ross with transportation, like what happened Sunday morning.
Clothier said Hardy was driving Ross back home to Potwin after taking a trip in to Wichita.
Butler County sheriff's deputies say 16-year-old Dominic Stolfi drove the wrong direction on K-254 near 143rd Street and crashed into the women, killing all three.
"Nancy used to fall asleep in the car, and I hope and pray she was sleeping and didn't see it coming," Clothier said.
Deputies said they met Stolfi just hours before the crash when they were called to a disturbance with other teens overnight. They say Stolfi admitted to taking an LSD-type drug around 2:30 a.m. Another teen also reported taking the drug, and was taken to the hospital.
Because deputies found no evidence of the drug, Stolfi was not arrested.
"I don't think you can ever truly handle something like this," Clothier said. "There's a lot of questions. A lot of questions."
Questions like, why Stolfi was not taken to the hospital like the other teen was. Deputies said Stolfi's father, Eric Stolfi, refused to have him sent by ambulance to the hospital.
Eric Stolfi talked with Eyewitness News Tuesday and gave a different account. He said deputies told him because his son was calm, they would release him into his custody. The father says he took Dominic Stolfi home and put him to bed. Sometime later, he says the teen woke up and left the house.
"It's better to be safe than sorry and in my opinion somebody dropped the ball," Clothier said.
Although Clothier feels the wreck could have been prevented, she holds no resentment towards the deputies or the teen's family.
"They're burying their son," she said. "They're not going to see him grow. I have children, I understand the loss of a child is devastating."
A funeral has been set for Dominic Stolfi on Thursday at 1 p.m. at Benton Church.
A service for Nancy Ross will be held Friday at 10:30 a.m. at Federated Church of Whitewater.
A service has not be planned yet for Lyssa Hardy, but the family is taking donations to pay for one.